The Great Irony of Our Lives

For those who enjoy their lives for most part of the time, life is just too short and not enough.

For those who are suffering in life, the emotions that come with it are just too painful and life is just too long and not worth living.

We are not born to be happy.


Be it as it may, our purpose in life is to seek happiness and along the way, we need good advice and clear pointers  to help us find our way and head in the right direction.

Every one of us must find our own way to salvation and the road to happiness is paved with obstacles and stumbling blocks. We need to see and read the road signs to carefully navigate sharp curves and steep slopes that can throw us off the road.

The vagaries of life are such that people who want the best things in life ends up disillusioned and not able to turn around or pick themselves up. The ones who are more successful are usually able to see things clearly and manage their emotions better.

Emotion is equal to the Mind x Change in Thought. It is a validation of Einstein's equation E = MC2. Change is constant and our mind is always a work-in-progress.

Our destiny is fluid and not carved in stone and this is only true if we learned the lessons life is teaching us. We can and should see the forest and the trees in our minds' eyes and not cloud it with fear, pessimism and negativity. Our vision is only as clear as our emotion, good or bad. A clear mind opens up possibilities in the horizon and creates visions of our future.  We need to be an optimist to see solutions to problems and not a pessimist who complicate matters through overthinking and negative thoughts.

Here lies the irony. We hope for the best and expect the worst. Life is either too short or too long depending on who you ask.

Chinese Astrology - One Situation, Two Outcomes

In life, when we are confronted with a bad situation, there are actually two outcomes. 

The first outcome is obviously negative since it is a bad situation and we may feel distraught or emotionally affected by it. This is an outcome that is fixed by fate - being at the wrong time and at the wrong place. We cannot undo what has happened to us. 

However, how the second outcome turns out depends on our thoughts, words and actions. It is not fixed. In fact, we can choose the outcome in our favour. This is destiny in the making and we have the power to make the best of the situation. And the power we have is over our emotion. 

Depending on the situation, our emotions can manifest in various forms through our words and actions.   

If it is anger over a misunderstanding, the temperamental type will lash out verbally at people whom they perceive has done them wrong.  The words they use can be hurtful to the other party as they let their emotions overpower them.  They lose their sense of control and as a result, they make the situation worse. Physical altercations can ensure. This is the second outcome and it comes swiftly. 

If it is disappointment over something they failed to achieve, they may be conditioned by their lack of ability and perceive themselves as unworthy and undeserving. Such self-defeating thoughts will break their spirits and make them lose their confidence in whatever they do. If they let such thoughts to spiral out of control, they will be filled with pessimism and have a cynical view of the future.  This is the second outcome and it is slow but insidious. 

Whatever it is, we need to remain calm and be in control of our emotion. A bad situation can only get worse if we let out emotion gets the better of us. A calm state of mind and equanimity will help us to think and act better, thereby making the second outcome a positive one, whether immediately or later.

Be mindful of our thoughts, words and actions as they can create outcomes that can be detrimental to us in any negative situation. The second outcome can be worse than the first if we do not learn to control our emotion and cut our losses. Our emotion is controllable and we must subjugate it to our conscious mind by conscious effort.  This is not easy to do as our emotions are deep-seated within our subconscious mind and waiting to pounce on us whenever it is triggered by any external stimuli. 

Our reactions stem from our emotion which pushes us to say or do things without any thoughts to the consequences. Our subconscious mind is much quicker to react to any given situation compared to our conscious mind. This is because of our emotion. 

The only way we can think faster than our emotion is by knowing consciously that with every situation, there are two outcomes. The first is fate – things happen for a reason and the second is destiny – we can choose our response.  

The Four Pillars of Destiny, a branch of Chinese Astrology, teaches us the difference between fate and destiny.  By choosing our responses based on rational minds, we have the power to decide how the second outcome will turn out in any given situation. To create your own destiny, you should know your useful elements and the useful Gods based on your birth chart. Please visit us at www.bazidestiny.yolasite.com

Chinese Astrology - Mind Your Qi, Find Your Luck

E = MC²

Our emotion is equal to our thoughts which are within our power to change.

The mind is the control centre of change and we are the embodiment of energy which gives us life and this energy is our life force. In the study of Traditional Chinese Medicine (TCM), this life force is known as Qi and the way it flows within our body is influenced by our mind and likewise, our mind is also affected by it.

Since emotion is a form of energy, we can change our energy by the way we think and our thoughts lead the way for Qi to flow. In other words, where the mind goes, Qi follows.

If we are negative minded, it creates roadblocks that impede the flow of Qi and hold us back from taking action. By channeling our thoughts in a positive way, we unblock the flow of Qi so that our actions can produce positive result. This is because our mind is the control centre of Qi and by changing our pattern of thought, we are breaking down the unconscious barrier that forms our habits. Qi is transformative and the action we take represents such transformation. Our actions likewise become our habits which in turn become the driver of our behaviour. Over the long-term, our character is the result of our behaviour. Each step of the transformation from our thoughts to our character makes way for our Qi to flow in transit. Along the way, we can change our emotion by changing our thought or how we think.

In short, the fastest way to change our thoughts is to control our mind consciously. When we control our mind consciously, Qi follows our thoughts. In other words, the fastest way to change our emotion is to change our thoughts. This is reflected in the Einstein equation E = MC² in which energy equals to mass multiplied by the speed of light to the power of two. Likewise, we have the conscious power to change our thoughts (M) in order to change our emotional (E) response to a situation. The other factor "C" in the equation stands for "change". 

How does this equation ties in with Chinese Astrology? 

There is a branch of study within Chinese Astrology known as The Four Pillars of Destiny. It shines the light on a person's character and how it leads the way to his or her destiny. By analysing the four pillars based on a person's birth chart which is derived from his or her birth date, a master can tell the character, the ability, the potential and the future of the individual. The analysis covers all aspects of life which include areas such as career, wealth, health and relationship. These are important factors that fall under the scope of destiny and by knowing who you truly are, you can go with the flow or change the flow of energy in your favour. This is where the formula E = MC² comes into play. Based on the Four Pillars of Destiny (Ba Zi), the energy within you is represented by the stems and branches within the pillars and they define who you truly are, both consciously and subconsciously. 

We are born on a given date which we cannot choose and we do not get to choose our family. This is our fate. Our life force comes into being based on the alignment of the stars and planets during our birth and it is governed by universal energy. And through this universal energy, we can make positive changes in our lives by tapping into our mind which controls our destiny. To put it simply, we have the power to change for the better.

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Chinese Astrology – All Out of Love

In Chinese Astrology, the birth chart of a person allows us to determine the quality of spousal relationship through an intricate destiny analysis. One of the branches of Chinese Astrology known as Four Pillars of Destiny or BaZi can reveal the luck of marriage of a person. 

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In Ba Zi, the secret to unveiling the marital luck is to examine the Spouse palace and the Spouse element. There are five elements and 12 animal signs in a BaZi's birth chart. The relationship between the elements and animal signs within the Four Pillars of a BaZi's birth chart can tell a lot about a person’s love life and relationship with people. 

What happens if you have a negative interaction between the elements or animal signs in a BaZi's birth chart? What can you do about it? In Chinese Astrology, it is believed that our luck can be altered by taking an action that pre-empt the likelihood of misfortune in a person’s love life. 

From the ancient Chinese perspective, a prediction from a BaZi analysis is not carved in stone but we can choose to tweet luck in our favor by marrying or establishing a relationship at the right time. For example, if the chart indicate a likelihood of divorce should you choose to marry before the age of 30, then you should marry later to avoid it becoming a self-fulfilling prophesy.

However, you need to make sure there is a significant difference in age between two persons who are forming a conjugal union. According to the ancient art of Chinese Astrology, a lack of affinity for marriage can be improved if we challenge the norm. Usually, a man marries a woman who is a few years younger than him.  

In order to break with the norm or convention and alter the spousal luck, a man should marry a woman who is considerably older than him or much younger than him. The age gap should be greater than 7 years or preferably more. 

Another way of challenging the norm is to ensure a significant difference in status. This is another variation of not following the norm. By this, a man need not be the bread winner or the one with the intellectual prowess or financial wherewithal. For example if the man is poor, the wife can be wealthy or highly educated. On the other hand, if the man is highly educated, the wife should have a low level education.

For a woman, if she is unable to get married due to unfavorable astrological signs, she can still find love by being the other woman. A BaZi's birth chart of a woman with poor marriage luck implies that she will find it difficult to be the first wife or the legally recognized one. In the olden times, the Chinese believed that you could have had more success if you took up the role of the second wife, mistress or a partner who was not legally recognized in marriage. 

As for a man, what can he do if his BaZi's birth chart revealed poor marriage luck? Going by the same unconventional rule, he can opt to marry a divorcee or a widow! Alternatively, he can also marry someone from a different race or culture. This is yet another variation of not following conventional rule. For example if you are a Caucasian, you can marry a Chinese, Japanese or a person of colored skin.

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Feng Shui – Water Placement At Home For Wealth and Career Success

Are there proper places to have a water feature at home?

Yes there are. This is in accordance to Feng Shui, the Art of Placement. And you can apply some Feng Shui techniques for want of better luck too. 

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The trick is to identify the spot where water can help to activate the wealth star of a house. Based on Feng Shui Flying Star system, a house has a natal chart that is divided into nine sectors i.e. north, south, east, west, northeast, northwest, southeast, southwest and centre. The flying stars are distributed within these sectors in a pattern that conforms to a formula. The flying stars are bodies of energy or qi that wax and wane according to time cycles. There are altogether nine flying stars represented by the number 1 – 9. The current wealth star is no. 8. This star governs wealth and career aspects of the occupants. If you want financial and career success, you should have a water feature such as an aquarium in the sector that has this star. For example, if the star 8 is located in the north sector of your house, you can put the aquarium there. The water can activate the star for wealth and career luck. 

However, there are also unsuitable places for water based on Feng Shui principles. To put a water feature in a sector that has an inauspicious star can invite trouble for the occupant of the house. For example, the current unlucky star is no. 5. This star is a harbinger of calamity, accidents and misfortune. By having a water feature such as an aquarium in the sector with this star will activate its negative effects and bring bad luck to the occupants. 

You should not have a pool (and pond) that cuts into the interior of your house. In other words, the pool should not straddle between the indoor and outdoor of your house. It is considered inauspicious and will bring financial instability to the occupants depending on the sector it is in.

Also avoid building a pond or pool above the car porch or underneath the staircase, especially if the staircase is close to the centre of the property.

A pool or toilet bowl (water closet) or bathtub above the Main Door is also to be avoided as it can cause significant loss of wealth. Likewise, such water feature above the kitchen stove or bed is inauspicious as it can cause health issue. If you come across such a scenario, you should relocate the offending feature or move your door inward or outward. 

Never have a body of water in the centre of a house. According to Feng Shui, the centre represents the heart of the house and it is Yin which should be passive and stable. Any water located there will cause the occupants to suffer health problem. 

A man-made waterfall is not a positive feature to have inside or outside the house especially if the water is rushing downwards in a straight line and making sharp piecing sound. A water fall that has a gentle and meandering flow should be fine. 

Water substantially affects the flow of energy in a property and when done right, water will encourage positive energy flow and should be given serious consideration in the art of placement.

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Chinese Astrology - The BaZi Way To Luck

In the pursuit of happiness, the Chinese has devised a way to decipher the luck of a person. Whether he or she can be lucky for marriage, career, wealth or health depends on the configuration of the heavenly stems and earthly branches. 

The heavenly stems display the face value of the person such as their prevailing traits for all to see. Each heavenly stem exhibits the person’s external character. 

The earthly branches hold the seeds to a person true character and what is in their mind. Each earthly branch hides the person’s internal character. 

Together, the stems and branches form the four pillars of destiny or Ba Zi birth chart.

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In order to truly know a person from the inside, we need to look at the hidden stems as well. The motivation of a person or what drives him or her towards a certain action can be uncovered from the hidden stems. In order words, a person’s inner thoughts and motives can be unveiled behind the mask they put on.

Then there is the Day Master which embodies your character and personality. It is YOU. It personifies who you are. Ideally, the Day Master should be well rooted in its own pillar. This is what people calls WYSWYG. What you see is what you get when dealing with such a person whose Day Master is as straight as a tree. 

The Day Master is the most important stem in a BaZi birth chart. It is the point of reference for all the stems and branches. It determines the balance of the BaZi birth chart. Whether you are weak or strong, the stems and branches play an interactive role to support or weaken you. 

Then there is the season of birth which can make an element strong or weak including the Day Master. It governs the temperature of the BaZi birth chart based on the four seasons – spring, summer, autumn and winter. If you are born in the right season, you are considered as strong. If you are not born in the right season, you are deemed to be weak. But that is only a simplistic way to assess the strength of a Ba Zi birth chart. The quality of a Ba Zi birth chart does not rest on its strength per se but the interaction of the stems and branches within it. Ultimately, the quality of a Ba Zi birth chart and hence, a person’s life hinges on the clarity and harmony of one’s Day master in relation to the stems and branches.

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